This weekend I turn 30. I’m not sure how I feel about it if I’m being totally honest. Part of me is panicking that I’m now getting old and the other part of me is glad to not have uncertainty and lack of confidence I had in my early twenties when I was learning who I was.
Someone once said to me, your twenties are your selfish years, you do what you want, live freely and don’t have too many responsibilities. This was the approach I adopted and don’t regret it.
I thought I’d do this post so you know a little more about me. I am a human wedding planner and stylist after all. I like to get to know my couples and genuinely get excited to hear about your wedding plans. I’m married and I know it’s such an amazing time of your lives and you should totally enjoy it all. That’s why I love to help!
Without sounding like a cringe-worthy CV bio or dating profile, here I go!
I’ve always been a creative, I loved the usual art and design at school and it then took me onto the path of Interior Design that I studied at Uni and worked in the industry for the past few years. I love design! I love seeing that idea from your head come to life. I’ll be honest, I suck at words, English writing and talking isn’t my strong point so if you can make sense of what I’m talking about, you’re doing well!
So ye, I love design and being an Interior Designer has taught me so much. I designed pubs, bars and restaurants so I was lucky enough to meet such a variety of people, from investors to pub landlords. (I love a good pub by the way!). The thing I really loved most though was standing there on a building site with my hard hat and safety boots on and seeing all the ideas become a finished space and working with the best suppliers to do a great job. Very similar to wedding planning!
After getting married in 2015 and driving my, now husband, and family mad with wedding ideas and meticulous planning, it seemed the wedding bug sparked within me and I really found my passion. The plans I put together for our wedding were concrete. The decor was scheduled out, boxed and labelled so everyone knew what to do on the morning of the wedding. It took hours, but I loved it. The set up on the morning was pretty stressful for my mum and family as they rushed round to get things done. This was my one wedding regret. I wish I’d got someone to do it for me. That’s why I offer this to my couples. Please don’t miss out on that morning getting ready with mum.
I never thought, when in my early twenties, that I’d be running my own business one day. I didn’t really know what I’d be doing, I assumed just carrying on doing Interior Design in a company. There’s a quote that I love, “Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.”― Farrah Gray. I can’t tell you how inspiring this quote was for me and it truly relates. So I decided to go for it. Life is too short not to give it go. So hence, after gaining a Diploma with the Wedding Academy, Emily K Weddings was launched.
I did, however, set myself one goal in life when I was younger and that was to own a vintage VW camper van by the time I was 30. Well, that hasn’t happened but I do have my Emily K Weddings van and that’s totally fine for me. It’s not quite the soft top Mini you assume most wedding planners and stylist have but practically, it’s the dream. How else do you think I transport all the styling magic. Although you might set these little silly goals in life and they might not turn out how you want, sometimes the alternative is simply a better fit.
Another thing that no one tells you about wedding planning, is how fit you need to be! This has been a shock to my system. Heavy lifting and running around is all part of it, so if you see me with a messy bun and trainers on while I’m setting up, I may look scruffy but I’ll look sharp eventually.
It also dawned on me the other day that I have never done anything radical with my hair. Feeling a little mainstream. Therefore, I’ve decided that, for my 30th, I’m getting my hair dyed pink (don’t worry mum, no tattoos or piercing. I’ll save them for my 40th!). I’m not sure what I’ll look like and I’m most definitely not cool enough to pull it off but I’m doing it anyway! If you do see me about with pink hair, just say it looks nice please even if it doesn’t. Fab, got that out of the way to avoid any awkward glances.
One more thing about turning 30 is how different my life is now I’ve moved back to Mirfield, a small town in West Yorkshire after living in London for 6 years. We now have an actual house (with stairs!) and dog and, dare I say this, those god-awful garden shoes that are like crocs but Lidls own (it’s not a good look at all and every time I put them on I question my life, but they’re handy). I miss London, I miss our friends and going out for drinks and dinner during the week, but it never quite felt like home for me. It was a natural move back Up North where I genuinely have noticed, people are a lot more friendly. I’m so glad I experienced London life and it was amazing, but at the same time, it’s nice to be home. Although, I do miss being the token Northerner in the office and a bloody good brunch!
I think that’s enough of my ramblings, I could go on, maybe that’s what turning 30 does to you, makes you ramble like a crazy old person. I just wanted to share with you a personal post so you can see I am just a girl (a 30 year old one) behind the brand, not pretentious but down to earth and working hard to make unique, beautiful weddings for you!
Speak to you soon. By then I’ll be a woman in her 30’s! Eeks! As if, I still feel 23!
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